Sunday, June 29, 2014

"Making Your Home Sing Monday" Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 114 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.

Well, I am still sick but have another doctor's appointment this week, so I'm hoping (and praying) that things will start to look up for me!  ;)

I hope you all have a great week!

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! 



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Sunday, June 22, 2014

"Making Your Home Sing Monday" Linky Party



Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 115 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.

I have been sick this past week and so did not feel like writing a post!  So I am just going to go ahead and get the linky party up.  I hope that you all had a great weekend!

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! 



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Sunday, June 15, 2014

"Don't Tell Dad!" & MYHSM Linky Party



Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 112 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.



"Don't tell dad!"

Sometimes these words would pop out of my young children's mouths when they had done something wrong.   They already knew that they had done something they shouldn't have and they didn't want their dad to know about it.

Some of their reasoning may have been that they didn't want to disappoint him, and some of it may just have been that they didn't want him to know in case he had something further to say about what they did.

"I don't keep secrets from your dad," I would remind them.

I usually gave hubby an update when he came home about how my day went (sometimes the minute he walked through the door, lol!).

But there were times when they hadn't done anything wrong.  In fact, maybe they had done something RIGHT or something awesome or funny had happened.  I would encourage them to call daddy and share their news with him as well.

I wanted my children to see their dad as my parenting partner.  I did not want to create a little "club" that their dad was not a part of.  I did not want him to be an outsider in his own family.  I also wanted my children to believe that they could come to their dad with anything.

I don't keep secrets from my husband, but I have kept confidences from him.  There is a difference.

In my position as a pastor's wife, I will often have someone's confidence and I do NOT pass those onto my husband (unless they ask me to, of course).

I also kept my children's confidences.  To me, the difference between a secret and a confidence is a secret involved holding back a wrong-doing and a confidence held back a thought or feeling.

So there were times that I kept my children's confidence, but I would also urge them to talk to their dad about it, telling him "He will understand and he can help!"

Later, I would usually discover that my children had talked to their dad, and they found that sometimes daddy had a different perspective than mommy on the situation.  They also learned that daddy did indeed understand, and did indeed help, and that he wouldn't laugh at them.

Sometimes children can get very used to confiding in mom from babyhood on, but they need a little more encouragement to confide in dad.

What YOU can do to help this along is:

1.  Pray for your husband's willingness to "court" his children and recognize the importance of spending individual time with them.  The goal is to win their hearts and when you win their hearts, you will have their confidence.

2.  Encourage your husband to plan some one-on-one time with your child.  It can be something as simple as going out for a coke, taking a walk, reading a bedtime story, or more involved such as a movie or a sporting event. A lot of talking can get done in the car on the way to an event!  Quality time is great, but you're looking for some quantity time here too, so pray that he will be consistent about setting time aside on a regular basis.

3.  Encourage your husband if he gets discouraged.  Conversation can take time (especially if the child is older and not used to confiding in daddy).  It starts out small and builds up.  Remember, he is building a closer relationship with his children and that takes time, but the rewards are immeasurable.

4.  Offer to plan something for them to do if you see that he is struggling in this area.

5.  Encourage your husband to let your child talk and not shut them down right away by trying to "fix" it.  Encourage him to just listen and, if advice is asked or guidance needed, to offer his opinion as an opinion instead of a directive.  Remember, we are talking about sharing confidences here, not a confessional.  If the child is confessing to a wrong he has done, that is a bit different, of course.  But if he is just sharing his feelings or confusion about a decision, remind daddy to listen FIRST and not fix. Fixing is for later, let your child get all his words out first.

As I said earlier, children can get used to talking and sharing their confidences with mom, and as much as they love their dad, they might be a bit intimidated to talk with him at first, if they aren't used to it. They may believe he's too busy or just assume he "doesn't care" about the little things as much as mom does.

It's up to daddy to show them that he DOES care by spending time with them, whether it's carrying them on a piggy back ride to bed, a tickle fest, a pillow fight, taking them out for a coke, etc.  One-on-one time means a lot.

A fun shared moment ending with daddy asking "So how was your day?" will eventually reap huge rewards in your child's life AND your husband's as the answer to that question will continue to knit their hearts together in love.

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! 



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Friday, June 13, 2014



My husband 
went shopping
and bought this 
for me......................



.................he is a bad, BAD man.................


Be sure and come back Monday and link up to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!

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Sunday, June 8, 2014

What Will Your Children Remember? & MYHSM Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 117 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.

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When my kids were little I wondered what they would remember when they grew up.  Would they remember the times I lost my temper with them? 

Would they remember those words I wished I could take back?  Would they remember me with a mad face?  Would they remember that day when I said I didn't have time to read them yet another story?

What would they remember?  Would they remember long games of monopoly?  Moments of laughter?  Dancing wildly around the room to Disney songs?  Picnics and hikes and bike rides and swimming in the pool?  Nights where we let them stay up late?  The times we prayed with them when they were concerned about something and cuddled with them when they were upset?

Would they remember nights where I held them and rocked them to sleep or times when they weren't feeling well and I stayed next to their bed and told them stories or sang them songs until they feel asleep?

Would they remember when we woke them up at midnight because it was snowing so beautifully and we got them dressed and went outside and made snow angels?  Would they remember hot summer nights when we tucked them into bed and less then five minutes later came in and surprised them by taking them out (in their pj's)  for ice cream?


What would they remember?


Do you worry about how you are raising your children?   Are you trying to raise them as you feel the Lord wants you to do but worry sometimes about the future?  Wondering if you are making this mistake or that mistake?  Are you worrying that you just might be "doing" it wrong? 

Do you wonder what THEY will remember about their childhood?

What do you remember about your OWN childhood?  Do you remember only bad times?  Or do you remember good times too?  Assuming you weren't abused, do you have mostly good memories or do you find yourself dwelling on only the bad ones?

Do you find yourself worrying about what your children will remember?


When you are doing your best to follow after the Lord and love and raise those kids to the best of your ability, you will have wonderful moments in which you feel good about yourself and moments where you feel that you are a "good" mom.  



You will also have moments where you feel like you blew it.   Moments where you feel like you've failed.  Moments when you make a mistake.  Moments you regret.  Moments you wish you could do over.


But kids?  They are very resilient.  They are also very forgiving, and they love you, mama, and they know that you love them!

As they grow, you will find that they will remember some wonderful times that YOU have forgotten.  They will have some wonderful memories of moments and times with you that YOU thought were uneventful but that your children treasure.

Have no fear, your children will remember the love you have for them, the fun and the laughter, the cuddles and hugs, and the wonderful memories you are making with them.  

That kind of love overrides all the negative, as long as there is much more love and much more positive to overcome it with, and that's what you're seeking to do, right?  Trying to raise them in a loving environment, where they can see that mom and dad make mistakes too, sometimes, but that we own up to our mistakes and ask them for forgiveness when necessary?

All our children really want is to feel safe and know that they are loved. So have no worries, mama, and smile at the future. You’re doing a GREAT job! 

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! 



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Sunday, June 1, 2014

Making Your Home Sing Monday Linky Party



Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.

Note: We had 81 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post so that others can join us!  It is a "no-follow" button.

I suppose no one is surprised that I don't have a blog post for today except me, lol!

I was too busy enjoying our beautiful sunny day and didn't even THINK about blogging.  I was really impressed that we had so many posts last week because it was a four day weekend.  You guys are the best!

Have a lovely day and go ahead and link up.  Can't wait to read it!  :)

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! 



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