Sunday, May 25, 2014

Marriage Is Hard When You're Doing It "Wrong" & MYHSM Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.

Note: We had 93 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post so that others can join us!  It is a "no-follow" button.


I have been married for over 30 years now, and I have to say that marriage is "easy" when you're doing it "right" and hard when you're doing it "wrong."

For me, I'm doing it wrong when I am more concerned about my own needs than my husband's.

I am doing it wrong when I am so busy thinking about MY next words that I am not really listening to HIS next words.

I am doing it wrong when I say "I forgive you" with my words but don't show it with my actions.

I am doing it wrong when I say "I forgive you" but am holding onto some rebellion in my heart.

I am doing it wrong when I care more about what's best for me than what's best for him.

I am doing it wrong when I get annoyed because he hasn't done "this" and then I think about how he hasn't done "that" and pretty soon I am purposely looking to see what ELSE he hasn't done.... and my annoyance is now turning into anger.

I am doing it wrong when I don't take his words at face value, and instead look for hidden meanings.

I am doing it wrong when I get angry and blame him over something that's not his fault.

I am doing it wrong when I bring up past "wrongs" in an argument and throw them in his face.

I am doing it wrong when I don't accept that he said "I didn't mean it that way" and insist on believing that he DID mean it that way.

I am doing it wrong when I use tears to manipulate my husband in order to get my way.

I am doing it wrong if I EVER seek to use my children as a weapon against my husband.



I am doing it wrong if I am trying to hurt my husband with my words and my actions, instead of using those words to communicate how I am feeling and what I am thinking.

I am doing it wrong when I am more concerned about "winning" than I am about our marriage.

I am doing it wrong when I begin to put up a wall between my husband and myself, and let bitterness and past hurts strengthen it.

I am doing it wrong when I see marriage as being ME instead of being WE.

I am doing it wrong when I would rather have my own way and be all alone than compromise and be together.

I am doing it wrong if I think my husband has to "earn" my respect before I give it.


I am doing it wrong if I allow anything to choke out my love for my husband.

I am doing it wrong when I do not turn to the Lord for grace, love, strength and wisdom to continue to build my marriage, but instead turn to anyone or anything that will counsel me to care only about myself and encourage me to tear my marriage down.

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! 



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Sunday, May 18, 2014

Making Your Home Sing Monday Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 98 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.

I am still in vacation mode here, so haven't had a chance to write another post.  But I do appreciate y'all linking up last week while I was partying with Mickey and Minnie!

No post this week either so let's get this party started and link up!

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! 



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Sunday, May 11, 2014

Making Your Home Sing Monday Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 107 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.

By the time you read this my family and I will be in Disneyland!

Believe me when I say I'm not really sure how that happened, lol!

One evening we went to a friend's house to visit and that night we somehow wound up talking about taking a trip there together.  The rest, as they say, is history!

So I don't really have a post for today so will get right to the link up.  Have a great week, y'all, and I will say "hi" to Mickey and Minnie for you!

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! 



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Sunday, May 4, 2014

Do You Smile At The Future? & MYHSM Linky Party



Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 112 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.

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I remember when I was a teenager and the future stretched out before me and frankly, it was a little scary!  I had no idea what I was going to do with my life and I found that a little intimidating.

One day, I read Proverbs 31:25 and came across the part where it says:


 “..she smiles at the future..." 

and I LOVED the idea that I could just leave my worries in the Lord’s hands and smile at the future.

Whenever I would start to worry about something that might happen, I would remind myself of that verse.  I loved it.   I wanted to smile at the future.

I am in a different season of life myself now. My children are grown, my homeschooling days are over, our first child just got married…….and the future stretches out before me, and it’s unknown and maybe even a little scary! ;)  Yet I still love the idea that I can just leave my worries with Him and smile at the future.


What about you?  Do YOU smile at the future?  


Does it stretch before you with uncertain days and long, weary nights and do you wonder or worry about what it's going to bring?

We can spend so much time worrying about tomorrow that we can't enjoy TODAY.

We can spend so much of our time planning and preparing and worrying about what MIGHT happen that we can miss what IS happening right now.

We can miss our husband's sweet smile, our childrens' whispered "I love you mommy!" as we tuck them in bed or our teenager's "Thanks, mom!  You're awesome!"

Worry can cause us to be present in our bodies but absent in our thoughts, so that we respond as expected but with absent smiles and inattentive hugs, because we're not really "there."

Worry is a distraction.

Seriously, do you have room for one more DISTRACTION in your life?

I don't.

Worry is something that crashes into our lives with a thought, and we INVITE it to stay by continually thinking about it, obsessing over it, and dwelling on it.


Have you ever heard that old saying that worry is like a rocker?  It will give you something to do but you won't get anywhere.

If worry is a habit of yours how about kicking it to the curb and taking up knitting instead?  ;)

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.  (Philippians 4:6-8)


How often are you praying about the things you're worrying about?  After all, if it's big enough to worry about, isn't it big enough to PRAY about?



And if it's not worth praying about, is it worth worrying about?

You and I don't know what the future holds, but we know Who holds the future!

THIS is why we can smile at the future, be "present" with our families, and make our homes sing today and every day!

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! 



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Friday, May 2, 2014

Things My Parents Used To Say.......



When I was a kid my parents would say stuff that didn't make sense.  We would be riding in the car, tired, hungry, impatient to arrive somewhere, and inevitably someone would start to annoy someone else and an argument would begin.

My dad would holler "DO YOU WANT ME TO PULL THIS CAR OVER?????" and all my brothers and sisters would say "No! No! No!"

And I would be saying "Yes, please!"

I just didn't get it.

Or whenever we wanted to do something "everyone" else was doing, my mom would say "If everyone jumped off a cliff, would you?" and I'd think, "That depends.  Is there water below?"

I just didn't get it.

Another favorite reply was "Because I said so."  Oh really?  Because you SAID so?  What kind of answer is that?  How do I even respond to that?  (Oh! o.k......NOW I get it.....)

My grandmother would often say "Pretty is as pretty does" and I didn't get that one either.  I would just nod my head and walk away, wondering whether I had just been complimented or insulted.

I remember hearing "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" and I'm thinking, ewwww! Why would I want to hold a bird in my hand and what if it has to go to the bathroom?

And that whole "don't put the cart before the horse" thing?   We didn't even OWN a cart much less a horse but even so, I always pictured a horse pulling a shopping cart.  Although I wanted one very badly.  A horse.  Not a shopping cart.

And what about "Close the door.  Were you raised in a barn?"  This one just seemed silly.  They were my parents.....they KNEW I wasn't raised in a barn.  Although the prospect was somewhat enchanting and slightly terrifying.  Maybe it would hold my non-existent horse and shopping cart.

I just didn't get it.

And for the record, I really DID believe that my face would freeze that way.

Also never quite got the "This will hurt me more than it hurts you" line.  Nope.  Not even CLOSE.  I have no idea how they were able to say that with a straight face.

Why did my mom feel the need to tell me she wasn't "born yesterday?"  Duhhhhhh.  For the record, you probably shouldn't say "Duh,' when your mom says that.  Just sayin'...........

That whole "We're not laughing at you, we're laughing WITH you" thing does not make sense when you're the only one NOT laughing.

But parents say all sorts of things, and I would usually nod my head wisely, as if I totally understood and agreed with what they were saying.  Then I would walk away in search of chocolate.

I just didn't get it.  (The point they were trying to make.  Although I probably didn't get the chocolate either.)

I also made myself several promises of things that I would NEVER, EVER, EVER say to my kids.

Such as, "Because I said so."  That was a biggie.  I promised I'd never say that to my kids.

Until the day I found myself saying it to them anyway.

Because........they just didn't get it.

What things did YOUR parents say to YOU?

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