Sunday, February 23, 2014

Eight Ways To Sabotage Your Marriage & MYHSM Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 93 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.

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Do you want to keep your love alive and keep your marriage strong?  Then DON'T DO this:


1.  Ignore him when you're mad at him.  Refuse to talk to him and don't communicate what you're feeling.  After all, he's your husband and if he really loved you, he'd know what you're thinking and feeling, right?  You shouldn't have to tell him.  He should just know.   Do not talk to him no matter how much he begs and how much he apologizes.  Refuse to talk it out.  Make him suffer.  He made a mistake and he deserves to pay for it.  So no talking but you can glare at him as much as you want.

2.  Don't forgive him so quickly or easily.  Hold onto your bitterness for as long as you can.

Whoever holds onto all their anger holds onto all the power in the relationship.  

Anger is empowering and whoever has the most control wins.  And you want to win, no matter what.

3.  Make sure you tell your children about all the stuff their dad has said or done that's hurt you, so that you can get them on YOUR side.  That way, you can gang up on him together and wear him down.  With the kids on "team mom," you can work together to bring daddy down.

4.  Talk badly about him to all your friends and family and make sure you air all your disagreements and anger on facebook.  That way, everyone will realize how difficult you have it and you will have their sympathy.  Make sure that you look good and he looks bad.

5.  Don't EVER admit when you're wrong.  Admitting that you're wrong is a sign of weakness and you can NOT afford to be weak in your marriage.

You must WIN at all costs, even if it means the destruction of your marriage and family.

6.  Withhold affection.  Even after he has said he is sorry.   Barely return his kisses (if you do it at all) and move away when he tries to reach out to hold you.  This will let him know that you are STILL mad even though you already told him that you're not and that you forgave him.  Eventually he will realize that your words will tell him one thing but your actions will tell him another, and that forgiveness is given over a matter of days or weeks or even months, not minutes.

7. Nag him.  The opportunities are endless here.  You can literally nag him about anything!  Isn't that exciting!  When you ask him to do something, continually harass him until he does it.  Complain, berate him, point out how worthless he is for NOT doing it, just have at it!  Nag him to your heart's content until he does exactly what you want, exactly the way that you want it, exactly WHEN you want it.  Eventually he will learn to let you have your way just to shut you up.  That's the beauty of nagging!

You will wear down his spirit, his joy, and his love for you but that's o.k., he will do what you want!

8.  Continually bring up the past and throw it in his face.  Don't let the fact that he has apologized over and over for something stop you.  You need to continually remind him of that time when he said this or did that, just so that he knows that you are keeping score.   When you bring up the past, you have more things that you can use against him, so that a small fight can become an even bigger one that you can win and make him feel bad!


In case it's not clear, DON'T take any of that "advice" to heart.  In fact, do the opposite and build up that man and marriage of yours!

"A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands." Proverbs 14:1


"Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife." Proverbs 25:24


What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! Please do not put your own "Making Your Home Sing Monday" Linky on your blog.



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Sunday, February 16, 2014

My First YouTube Audio: Keeping Joy In Marriage & MYHSM Linky Party!


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.

Note: We had 119 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.

Image courtesy of photostock / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Last month I spoke at a women's conference and today I am posting the audio of my speech (as there was no video). My talk was on keeping the JOY in marriage.  I actually based it on this previous blog post of mine, deleted some stuff and added some more stuff and expanded upon it.

It's kind of a Marriage 101 and I covered these eight points:


1.  Set aside time every evening for your spouse.
2.  Don't confuse the ACTION of love with the FEELING of love.
3.  Don't focus on what he's NOT doing, focus on what he IS doing.
4.   Flirt with your husband!
5.  Pray for your spouse and thank the Lord for him.
6.  Don't neglect the physical side. 
7.  Don't bash your husband to your friends or family.
8.  Learn to forgive and let go

So below is an audio of my talk but I feel like I have to tell you that I am NOT a professional speaker, although I tried to speak from the heart.  I'm not trying to fish for compliments, just wanted to let you know I'm not a pro, so don't expect miracles, lol!

You will hear me wonder if I've lost my place, drink from my water bottle, lots of "ummmms" and maybe even an allergic sniffle or two.  But then, it wouldn't be me without any of that!

There's also a fun story about one of my children and you GOTTA hear that if nothing else, lol!

The audio is rather long, about 35 minutes, so if you've got a bunch of dishes to do or laundry to fold or whatever, then I'll keep you company!  Just don't forget to link up first!  ;)  You can view it below or click here to view it on youtube.





What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! Please do not put your own "Making Your Home Sing Monday" Linky on your blog.



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125 Titus 2 Tuesday ButtonTeaching What Is Good  Messy MarriageFamily Home and LifeWise-Woman-Builds

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Dear Kids, Mommy Is Not A Morning Person




Dear Kids, I am not a morning person.

No really, I'm not.

Haven't you figured that out yet?

You think I'm listening to you because I'm being quiet.  I'm not being quiet.

I am sleeping with my eyes open.

I am not nodding my head because I agree with you.  I am nodding my head because, as I fall asleep, my head falls forward and it jerks me awake.

When I move my head from side to side, I am not disagreeing with you, I am trying to shake myself awake.

I am having cold cereal and milk for breakfast.  I am having it because that's the only food that I can prepare and eat in my sleep.

Why do you get up so early?  Are you trying to get back at me somehow?

Is it because the birth canal wasn't wide enough when you were coming through?  Were the baby wipes too cold?  Was your bedroom too warm?  Are you mad because I didn't buy you that candy at Walmart when you were two?

I've often wondered why people say "I slept like a baby."

Babies don't sleep.  They regenerate. They are simply charging their batteries.

And while they are "sleeping" and recharging, they will occasionally test their lung power.  But only when they are sure that you are really and truly and deeply asleep.  Otherwise it's no fun.

I am still recovering from all those years of sleepless nights and zombified days.  And I'm still tired.

This, my children, is why I am not a morning person.


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What Joy Is MinePhotobucketHappy Wives ClubLiving Proverbs 31
125 Titus 2 Tuesday ButtonTeaching What Is Good  Messy MarriageFamily Home and LifeWise-Woman-Builds