Sunday, May 25, 2014

Marriage Is Hard When You're Doing It "Wrong" & MYHSM Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.

Note: We had 93 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post so that others can join us!  It is a "no-follow" button.


I have been married for over 30 years now, and I have to say that marriage is "easy" when you're doing it "right" and hard when you're doing it "wrong."

For me, I'm doing it wrong when I am more concerned about my own needs than my husband's.

I am doing it wrong when I am so busy thinking about MY next words that I am not really listening to HIS next words.

I am doing it wrong when I say "I forgive you" with my words but don't show it with my actions.

I am doing it wrong when I say "I forgive you" but am holding onto some rebellion in my heart.

I am doing it wrong when I care more about what's best for me than what's best for him.

I am doing it wrong when I get annoyed because he hasn't done "this" and then I think about how he hasn't done "that" and pretty soon I am purposely looking to see what ELSE he hasn't done.... and my annoyance is now turning into anger.

I am doing it wrong when I don't take his words at face value, and instead look for hidden meanings.

I am doing it wrong when I get angry and blame him over something that's not his fault.

I am doing it wrong when I bring up past "wrongs" in an argument and throw them in his face.

I am doing it wrong when I don't accept that he said "I didn't mean it that way" and insist on believing that he DID mean it that way.

I am doing it wrong when I use tears to manipulate my husband in order to get my way.

I am doing it wrong if I EVER seek to use my children as a weapon against my husband.



I am doing it wrong if I am trying to hurt my husband with my words and my actions, instead of using those words to communicate how I am feeling and what I am thinking.

I am doing it wrong when I am more concerned about "winning" than I am about our marriage.

I am doing it wrong when I begin to put up a wall between my husband and myself, and let bitterness and past hurts strengthen it.

I am doing it wrong when I see marriage as being ME instead of being WE.

I am doing it wrong when I would rather have my own way and be all alone than compromise and be together.

I am doing it wrong if I think my husband has to "earn" my respect before I give it.


I am doing it wrong if I allow anything to choke out my love for my husband.

I am doing it wrong when I do not turn to the Lord for grace, love, strength and wisdom to continue to build my marriage, but instead turn to anyone or anything that will counsel me to care only about myself and encourage me to tear my marriage down.

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! 



If you don't want to miss any blogs posts, you can subscribe
by 
RSS, Bloglovin, Feedly
Facebook or Email 

I'd love to connect with you!




I am  linking up to these linky parties:

 Photobucket
Living Proverbs 31

marriage mondaysWhat Joy Is MineTeaching What Is Good125 Titus 2 Tuesday Button Messy MarriageFamily Home and LifeWise-Woman-Builds

16 comments:

  1. Thank you for hosting! Thanks for the post on husbands today, can I just say, thanks I needed that? ☺

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Glad you enjoyed it, Debbie! Thanks for linking up!

      Delete
  2. Nan, this was a great post, so simple, yet so profound! I had to share on Pinterest and FB. Donna

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Oh THANK you, Donna! I love that you shared it! :)

      Delete
  3. Thanks for the great post & for hosting & God bless!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. God bless you too, Laurie and thanks for linking up!

      Delete
  4. This is a powerful post!! I am saving it to my Pinterest...I need to read it again. And sorry for my link up...I goofed up and hit crop again and my beautiful picture disappeared. I hate to see an empty spot, lol. Blessings!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Nannette, thanks for pinning it! Do you want me to delete the old post so that you can link up again with the beautiful picture? Let me know as I can easily delete it so you can repost it.

      Delete
  5. Thanks for much for the post and for hosting.

    Hope you're enjoying your weekend!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks, Bobbie! It's been a fairly relaxing weekend, which I appreciate as I don't get very many of those, lol! Hope you're having a great weekend too!

      Delete
  6. What a powerful, thought provoking, truth filled, encouraging post. Loved it!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you, Kaylene! I'm glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for joining the "party" today! :)

      Delete
  7. Thank you so much Nan! Either way, I do not mind. I would use the one of them saluting the flag. Have a wonderful holiday!!

    ReplyDelete
  8. Great post, exactly when we look to one fault gosh how many will we find!

    ReplyDelete
  9. Hi, Nan!
    I hope you are enjoying this beautiful spring weather and are well in health and the Lord! Thanks for hosting :)

    ReplyDelete
  10. 'I am doing it wrong when I begin to put up a wall between my husband and myself, and let bitterness and past hurts strengthen it. ' So very true! I like the mental picture this statement brings. strengthening bitterness... Much food for thought! Thank you! Blessings!

    ReplyDelete

So glad you stopped by today! Please feel free to subscribe to my blog and/or follow me on facebook. The links are at the bottom of each post.

Thank you for leaving a comment. I love hearing from you! Please keep it nice and sweet and family friendly so I don't have to delete!

Please don't leave a link to your blog (or anyone else's) in your comment. Due to google's new comment spam policy, any comments with links will have to be deleted to protect both you and me!