Sunday, February 23, 2014

Eight Ways To Sabotage Your Marriage & MYHSM Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 93 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.

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Do you want to keep your love alive and keep your marriage strong?  Then DON'T DO this:


1.  Ignore him when you're mad at him.  Refuse to talk to him and don't communicate what you're feeling.  After all, he's your husband and if he really loved you, he'd know what you're thinking and feeling, right?  You shouldn't have to tell him.  He should just know.   Do not talk to him no matter how much he begs and how much he apologizes.  Refuse to talk it out.  Make him suffer.  He made a mistake and he deserves to pay for it.  So no talking but you can glare at him as much as you want.

2.  Don't forgive him so quickly or easily.  Hold onto your bitterness for as long as you can.

Whoever holds onto all their anger holds onto all the power in the relationship.  

Anger is empowering and whoever has the most control wins.  And you want to win, no matter what.

3.  Make sure you tell your children about all the stuff their dad has said or done that's hurt you, so that you can get them on YOUR side.  That way, you can gang up on him together and wear him down.  With the kids on "team mom," you can work together to bring daddy down.

4.  Talk badly about him to all your friends and family and make sure you air all your disagreements and anger on facebook.  That way, everyone will realize how difficult you have it and you will have their sympathy.  Make sure that you look good and he looks bad.

5.  Don't EVER admit when you're wrong.  Admitting that you're wrong is a sign of weakness and you can NOT afford to be weak in your marriage.

You must WIN at all costs, even if it means the destruction of your marriage and family.

6.  Withhold affection.  Even after he has said he is sorry.   Barely return his kisses (if you do it at all) and move away when he tries to reach out to hold you.  This will let him know that you are STILL mad even though you already told him that you're not and that you forgave him.  Eventually he will realize that your words will tell him one thing but your actions will tell him another, and that forgiveness is given over a matter of days or weeks or even months, not minutes.

7. Nag him.  The opportunities are endless here.  You can literally nag him about anything!  Isn't that exciting!  When you ask him to do something, continually harass him until he does it.  Complain, berate him, point out how worthless he is for NOT doing it, just have at it!  Nag him to your heart's content until he does exactly what you want, exactly the way that you want it, exactly WHEN you want it.  Eventually he will learn to let you have your way just to shut you up.  That's the beauty of nagging!

You will wear down his spirit, his joy, and his love for you but that's o.k., he will do what you want!

8.  Continually bring up the past and throw it in his face.  Don't let the fact that he has apologized over and over for something stop you.  You need to continually remind him of that time when he said this or did that, just so that he knows that you are keeping score.   When you bring up the past, you have more things that you can use against him, so that a small fight can become an even bigger one that you can win and make him feel bad!


In case it's not clear, DON'T take any of that "advice" to heart.  In fact, do the opposite and build up that man and marriage of yours!

"A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands." Proverbs 14:1


"Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife." Proverbs 25:24


What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! Please do not put your own "Making Your Home Sing Monday" Linky on your blog.



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25 comments:

  1. Great advice here! Thank you so much for hosting. I pray you have a blessed week.

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  2. Thanks Rosilind, you too! Can't wait to read your newest organizational post! :)

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  3. Thanks for hosting all the inspiration Nan!

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    1. Thanks for stopping by and linking up again, my friend!

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  4. This is sound wisdom Nan! I will work hard at being the Proverbs 14:1 woman, thanks for sharing and hosting, do have a super blessed day!
    Love

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    1. I am always working at it too! It's easy to tear something down but harder to build. But I'd rather build my marriage than tear it down! You have a super blessed day too, my friend!

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  5. Great advice - thank you for sharing this. Gentle Joy

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  6. This is an awesome fun post, I enjoyed it and to be honest it's a good reminder :)
    Thanks!

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  7. Dear Nan,
    i didn't joint the party today, but I so much love those tips.
    Blessings :-)

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    1. Thank you, Kath! That's o.k. It's always a pleasure to have you when you can but life has a way of happening sometimes, lol!

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  8. This is such a hilarious way of getting right to the heart of the matter and helping us all remember when unkindness towards our husbands sneaks in.

    Thank too for hosting such a wonderful party!!

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    1. Glad you enjoyed it, Judy! It sure can sneak in sometimes when we least expect it, can't it?

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  9. Visiting from Cornerstone Confessions link up today! I truly enjoyed reading your words today - made me smile ;)
    http://vintagehousewife.org/#/2014/02/25/inspiring-you-titus-2-love/

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    1. Thank you for dropping by and leaving a comment, Shannon! Glad it made you smile! :)

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  10. I love how you've come from the negative in this, Nan. Not only does it show the absurdity of our typical actions, but it also convicts us in a penetrating way. I love it and all the points you've made here. Great post!

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    1. Thank you! It's always more fun to come from the negative, lol!

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  11. Nan...A list we don't want to see but need to see. How easy it can be to tear down our marriages if we are not intentional about loving our husbands the way we are called to. Thank you for the reminder and encouragement friend. Have a sweet week in the Lord.

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    1. Oh I hope you have a lovely week too, Naomi! Spring is on its way! ;)

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  12. Hi, Nan!
    I hope this finds you well in the Lord and growing in grace!! Thank you for hosting, friend! God bless you today :)

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    1. Hi Jacqueline! Thank you! I'm doing great and God is good! :) God bless you too, my friend!

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  13. Another great post! Oh that more wives would recognize the power of their words and actions!

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    1. Amen, sister! There have been many times over the years when God has revealed to me my own wrong motives or actions and I am so thankful for His grace and loving heart and for my husband's love and forgiveness!

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  14. Good article. Women and men need to learn to forgive each other and think as "we" and not you versus me.

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    1. I totally agree! When you get married, it's no longer "me" but "we" and you have to turn that mindset around! :)

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