Thursday, January 30, 2014

I'll Bet We Have A Lot In Common

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I've been a mom for 25 years now.  Does that make me a pioneer?  Probably not.  But it does mean that I have experience.

But guess what?  I only have experience with MY kids.  I don't have experience with your kids because I've never met you.

But I'll bet we have a lot in common........

I'll bet you're tired sometimes.

I'll bet you'd like to scream sometimes.

I'll bet you cry sometimes......sometimes with sadness, sometimes with joy.

I'll bet your kids make you mad sometimes.

I'll bet you feel guilty sometimes.

I'll bet you've cried yourself to sleep sometimes.

I'll bet you wish you could keep your kids little forever, sometimes.

I'll bet you can't wait for them to grow up sometimes.

I'll bet you walk into a room and forget why you walked in there sometimes.

I'll bet your kids make you laugh sometimes.

I'll bet you don't get to sit down as often as you'd like.

I'll bet you don't get to sleep in as late as you'd like.

I'll bet you lose your train of thought sometimes.

I'll bet you fear for your child's future sometimes.

I'll bet you carry them in your heart whenever you leave the house.

I'll bet you pray for their safety whenever they leave the house.

I'll bet your dinner gets cold sometimes.

I'll bet you call your kids by the wrong name sometimes.

I'll bet you've licked your finger to clean off your child's face before.

I'll bet you've been pooped on, spit up on, bled on, stepped on or vomited on at least once in your momhood.....and more than once.

I'll bet you've stepped on a lego or tripped over a toy in the middle of the night at least once.

I'll bet it hurt.

I'll bet you've gone into the bathroom before when you didn't really have to "go" but instead just wanted to get away for some peace and quiet.

I'll bet someone either tried to follow you in there, asked "Mommy, what you doin' dere?" or waggled their little fingers under the door.

I'll bet you've hidden in a closet, the bathroom, or behind a cupboard door to sneak a piece of chocolate.

I'll bet you cringed whenever the candy wrapper made a noise.

I'll bet you've said things you promised yourself you'd never say.

I'll bet you've done things you thought you'd never do.

I'll bet you never knew how selfish you could be until you had kids.

I'll bet you never realized how unselfish you could be until you had kids.

I'll bet you've said "I told you so" at least once.......or thought it.

I'll bet you've wondered how one tiny baby could generate so much laundry.

I'll bet you never realized you had so much love in you.

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I'll bet you never realized your heart could be so full.

I'll bet you never thought being a mom could be so hard sometimes.

I'll bet you never thought being a mom could be so awesome.

And I wonder, have you ever wondered whether or not it was worth it?

Because, it is.......

........Every single annoying, amazing, fun, frustrating, wonderful, beautiful, joyous, terrifying, sweet moment of it!

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Sunday, January 26, 2014

Are You Trading Time With Your Family For Time With Your Vacuum? & MYHSM Linky Party

Making your home sing Mondays

Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!

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Are you sacrificing time with your family for time with your vacuum?

I definitely agree that we DO need to get the dishes and the laundry done, meals cooked, kitchen cleaned, etc.

But I also know that sometimes we don't manage our time very well.

If you are spending your daytime hours playing games on facebook, watching t.v. or surfing the internet and spending your evening hours catching up on your homemaking chores, you may want to rethink your priorities.

Evening time is family time, or whatever time your family is all together.  Do you really want to spend it catching up on chores that you could have done earlier?

I know how tempting it is to spend time on the computer, watch a movie, and/or just sit down and read a book all day. It's fun, right?

But are we hiding it?

Do we jump up the minute we hear our husband's key in the door and try and look like we've been doing something other than playing on the computer the last couple of hours?

Are we "goofing off" when our husbands aren't home, and then saving all the cleaning and other homemaking responsibilities for when he IS home?

Many people would say that this is fine, as long as things are getting done.  But at whose expense?

If I am using most of my day time hours every day to surf the net, explore pinterest, watch a movie or chat with my friends, then I am not managing my time well.  In my opinion anyway.

If I do that, then what happens is that my day time hours are being used for MY personal interests and desires.  Then I use my evening time, when my whole family is home and together, to do chores and things that I could have and SHOULD have done during the day.

I become too "busy" to spend time with my family and so I sacrifice my time with my family for time with my vacuum.

It doesn't mean that I should never have fun in my day.  It just means that I need to have a balance.

I "signed on" to be a wife and a mom when I got married and had my children.  That means I have a responsibility to my family too.  It's no longer all about me.  Actually, it never was!  I just didn't realize it until I grew up!  ;)

Balance.  This is an issue that many moms have to struggle with at one time or another, because there is no one monitoring our day.  I have struggled with managing my time too.  Still do, sometimes!

I can waste as much of it as I want or be as diligent as I want.  My husband will never know.

But I will know.  And God will know.

I can be lazy and selfish and focus only on me, or I can serve my family in love.

So what about you?

Do you feel like your priorities are out of whack?

Would you change your daily activities if someone installed a camera in your home?  Or would you spend your day exactly the same?

Do you feel like you need to hide how you spend your time?

Are you taking too much time out for "fun?"  Or not enough?

You see, there's the other end of the spectrum, where mom is spending TOO MUCH time with her vacuum......spending much of the day and the evening cleaning, straightening and maintaining her home.

Too busy cleaning to take a moment to read a book to her child and too busy cleaning the kitchen and doing the laundry to sit down and watch a movie with her husband.  I've been there too!

In fact, some weeks I've been on BOTH sides of this dilemma.  Too much fun AND too much working.....all in the same week!  It's enough to give you a headache.

It's all about balance.  We women struggle with finding it sometimes, don't we?

I will tell you one thing:

I think we know when we're NOT balanced...........  

.....when we're deleting our computer history so no one happens to see how much time we wasted on the internet today.

.....when we're feeling guilty because we know we're not being diligent with our time.

.....when we're constantly yelling at our kids to hurry up because WE didn't get off of the computer in time and now we're yelling at THEM to walk faster because we're late.

.....when we are constantly stressed and anxious and tired and feel like we're doing everything and yet accomplishing nothing.

.....when we feel like we are all work and no play.

.....when we feel like we are all play and no work.

.....when we feel guilty because we feel like we're doing the best we can and we STILL feel like we're letting someone down somewhere.

We have to remember what's important in life.   We have to remember our priorities.  We have to remember who we're doing it for.  For them.  For Him.  For ourselves, even!

We have to remember that we can't please everyone.  So we need to stop trying.  We need only please those that God has called us to please, and serve those that God has called us to serve.

We can trust God to help us find a balance.  All we have to do is ask!  Ask Him for help today and make your home sing!

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