Sunday, September 8, 2013

Set A Chore Cut Off Time & MYHSM Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


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The other night I found myself washing dishes at 12:30 at night.  While many in the world were sleeping, I was washing dishes.  Although I usually do them after dinner, this time I had not bothered and so now I had to do them if I wanted to wake up to a clean kitchen in the morning.  Which I did.

When my kids were younger I used the late evening hours to get stuff done.  It wasn't unusual for me to do laundry, do the dishes, organize a cupboard or mop the floors at 11 p.m. or even midnight.

I would fold laundry and also flip flop the laundry from the washer to the dryer right in the middle of a movie with my husband.  In fact, I would not agree to watch a movie unless my hubby promised me that we would stop the movie in the middle so that I could run and transfer the laundry or grab it when the dryer was done.

My day was never done.  My "chores" were never done.  I would walk by my husband with my endless loads of laundry or dusting or in the kitchen cleaning something and he would say "I wish you would stop doing stuff around the house and relax."

I would think to myself, "Relax?  That's easy for YOU to say.  I can't relax!  I have dishes to do and laundry to fold and things to dust......."

It wasn't like I was avoiding doing the work during the day. It's just that I loved to organize and I loved having things neat and orderly, so I would FIND stuff to do on top of things that already needed doing.  Or I would start doing something late at night that could easily have waited until the next morning.

I eventually realized that my late night chores were keeping me up at night.  I was having trouble sleeping because my body was all revved up with energy and my mind was going.  I just couldn't unwind enough to go to sleep once I got in bed.

Not only that, but I didn't WANT to go to bed right away.  I wanted to have a little "fun" and "relax" before bed.   I find this very funny that I wanted to "relax" before sleeping.  Isn't sleeping relaxing?  ;)  Consequently I found myself staying up much later because I was now "relaxing" after all the work I'd been doing.

So I began to set a chore cut off time for myself.  At first, my cut off time was 11 p.m., but that didn't work so well, as I still found myself staying up later than I wanted to.

Then, I tried 10 p.m. but again, that did not work well either.  It was still too late. I then went to 9 p.m. and eventually, even earlier.

What will setting a chore cut off time do for YOU?

1.  More time with your husband and family.  Evening time is "prime" family time.  Enjoy your family, play a game, read a story, have a snuggle or just enjoy being with them.

2.  You will feel more rested and in a better mood.  Just having some downtime before bed can be enough to perk up your attitude as well as start you on the road to some sweet dreams!  It's hard to unwind and fall asleep when you've been running around in a whirlwind of cleaning.

3.  You won't feel like a household drudge.  Never having an end to your household chores can make you feel overworked, overwhelmed and underappreciated.

4.  More time for fun!  Chores will take all day if we let them, leaving less time for fun and more time for work.  Know when to say goodnight to all but the occasional or necessary chores and put them to bed before it's time for YOU to go to bed.

What about YOU?  Do you find yourself doing chores into the late night hours?  Are you staying up much later than you feel you should because of it?  Are you missing time with your hubby or children due to your endless chores?  Are you feeling discouraged and defeated and just plain tired as you fold yet another load of laundry?

Find a chore cut off time that works for YOU and relax, enjoy the rest of your evening and make your home sing!

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22 comments:

  1. All good points... it seems like the work in never done! Thanks for hosting!

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    1. And it really IS never done as it seems like we can always find something to do, lol! That's why I set a cut off time.

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  2. I've really struggled with this not so much with my household duties, although I'm known to do laundry right up to bedtime, but with writing projects. And writing in the evening isn't necessarily a bad thing except that I can't slow my brain down when it is time for bed. So I've worked really hard to have cut-off times like this, Nan. I've also worked on rearranging my schedule so that I'm doing activities that are more relaxing in the evening and activities that are more energizing or taxing earlier in my day. We do seem to think alike, don't we?! So I'm off to grab my M&M's, thinking of you as I happily munch away! :)

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    1. I can see that happening. All that writing would totally get your brain working and yes, it would be hard to turn it off!

      Love that you schedule your high energy stuff during the day and more relaxing stuff at night. I try to do that too as it's just much easier to do it during the day when my energy is higher! :)

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  3. My husband has said from the beginning of our marriage, It will still be there tomorrow. A lot of times it is. But I have learned to let it go.
    Thanks for hosting
    Janine@mylampisfull

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    1. What a smart husband you have! He is right! My hubby tries to get me to chill out too, lol!

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  4. Great idea! I really should do this. It might also motivate me to be more active in my chores in the morning. Thanks for the link-up!

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    1. Morning time is such a great time for me to do my "high energy" chores. Although not TOO early as I am not a morning person, lol!

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  5. This is such a good idea. I have mostly over the years done the chores during the morning. Early as possible. Often (on days like Mondays) the chores are endless and I kind of get carried away. In the evening the dishes and cleaning up the kitchen are what I focus on. The dishes are still waiting tonight and I am sure that you noticed and posted this for me so I would get them DONE. I am just not feeling like washing them since it is Sunday.

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    1. I did, Judy! I was looking over your shoulder and thought "Hmmmmmm, Judith needs to get her dishes done....." Lol!

      I did NOT want to do my dishes last night. Hubby made popcorn and it was late and all it was was the popcorn bowl and loading the popcorn pan into the dishwasher as I had already cleaned the kitchen earlier.

      So I hand washed the popcorn bowl and loaded the pan into the d.w. but I DIDN'T want to do it, lol!

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  6. We've been letting things slide here lately, so I've been working at doing up the dishes before heading to bed. Thanks for the encouragement!

    I linked up a Giveaway by mistake today - #38. I don't see a way to delete it. I apologize, I did a quick copy-and-paste and hit enter before I could catch it. Please delete if giveaway posts are not allowed.

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    1. Well, technically they aren't allowed but don't worry about it, my friend. Everyone loves a giveaway, right? I just request that people don't as a rule because I don't want a whole linky party of giveaways. But this one time isn't going to hurt, so it's fine! :)

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  7. I never actually thought about it, but I guess we do have a cut off time! I don't do anything after 8pm. Great idea!

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    1. So you have set yourself a cut off time and didn't even know you did it. You are brilliant, my friend! :)

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  8. This is such a good idea! Thank you for sharing and hosting!

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    1. Thanks, Lexie! So glad you've linked up today!

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  9. Great idea! I definitely need to set a chore cut off time; especially once my husband comes home. Without a cutoff, you could keep busy cleaning and organizing 24/7... and that's just not healthy ;) Thanks for sharing!

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    1. You are so right, it's NOT healthy. And yet it's so easy to always find something to do around here! Drawers to straighten, cupboards to organize.....I could easily keep going if I didn't deliberately stop myself!

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  10. Nan,
    I can really relate to you with the relaxing before bedtime...it has been a struggle to want to go to bed! thank you for the wonderful food for thought!! You articulated what I have wanted to put down on paper for some time! Blessings~!

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    1. Thank you for your sweet words, Jacqueline! Once you set a cut off time you will find it much easier to make yourself go to bed....unless you're right in the middle of a good book, lol! ;)

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  11. I do the same thing! And I started turning off the computer and tv at 9 pm to help me unwind which has been super helpful.

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    1. Good for you! Because it can be very easy to get lost in a t.v. show or on the computer! Or even in a good book, lol!

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