My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing? It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up! Thanks!
Note: We had 86 linkups last week which is awesome! I'm sorry I wasn't able to visit all of you, but I do thank you and appreciate you linking up! Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today! :)
I don't know about you but I can ignore certain things around my house. To a certain point.
I can ignore the dog hair piling up on the floor. I can ignore the baskets of clean laundry waiting to be folded. I can ignore the hamper of dirty laundry waiting to be washed.
I can ignore the dust on the wood furniture and I can ignore the lint on the carpet. I can ignore the bed not being made.
I can ignore the water spots on the bathroom mirror and toothpaste spatter in the sink. I can ignore the makeup that I left out on the kitchen counter.
I can ignore the mail or papers piling up on the table. I can ignore the garbage can that is getting full and needs to be emptied soon.
I can ignore all of this for at least a day or two, some of them maybe even more.
But I cannot ignore the dirty dishes piling up in the kitchen sink. I can't ignore the clutter piling up on the kitchen counters.
At least, not very often. I suppose you could say that it is a non-negotiable. I pretty much have to have my kitchen clean every day.
Long ago I decided to make a clean kitchen a non-negotiable. Before that, my kitchen was almost always a mess. But one day I decided that I was tired of the mess and I wanted to wake up to a clean kitchen every morning.
In order to do that, it meant I had to go to bed with a clean kitchen every night.
It was that simple. I made one "rule" and stuck to it.
By saying I wanted to wake up to a clean kitchen it meant several things had to happen:
1. It meant that I had to unpack the groceries right away and put them away, instead of leaving the canned goods in the grocery bags for days on end.
2. It meant that I had to train myself (and eventually our future children) to load the dirty dishes straight into the dishwasher rather than leaving them in the sink all day.
3. It meant that I had to unload the dishwasher every morning so that I could load it back up again with dirty dishes throughout the day.
4. It meant that I had to remember to actually RUN the dishwasher at night so that I could unload it in the morning.
5. It meant that I had to clean up the kitchen after every meal so that I wasn't faced with cleaning three meals worth of dishes before bed.
6. It meant that I had to put my meal making supplies away, rather than leaving them out. In other words, I had to put the peanut butter and jelly away after making a sandwich, had to put the flour and sugar away when baking something, had to put the spices away when making dinner, etc., instead of leaving it all out on the counters.
7. It meant that I had to wash any dishes that couldn't fit into the dishwasher rather than leaving them in the sink.
8. It meant that I had to stay on top of my grocery shopping so that I could make sure I had dishwasher detergent or dish soap in the house so that I could wash the dishes.
It meant that I had to establish the habit of cleaning my kitchen. Period. It had to become something that I didn't have to argue myself into or motivate myself to do or bribe myself into doing every day. It had to become a habit. But it didn't start as a habit.
It started as just something that I wanted to do and felt I needed to do and so I DECIDED I was going to do it. So I did it.
The next day, I decided to do it again. I made the decision to do it over and over and over, until it became a habit.
Sometimes, we have things we want to do, but we don't take steps to make them happen. We say "I want a clean kitchen" but then we don't do the things needed to GET it clean and keep it clean. Wishing will not make it so. You have to take that first step, and then the next step, and so on.
Let's say you want to keep your living room or family room neat and orderly. It's not going to magically happen. You need to establish some habits, such as returning the dirty dishes to the kitchen (or establish a rule that you don't eat in the living room), put the newspaper away when you're done reading it, put the shoes and coats away where they belong, put the children's toys away (and teach your children to do it when they're old enough), etc.
You're not going to get your kitchen, bathroom or any other room clean by establishing just ONE habit and not doing anything else.
What household chore or chores do YOU ignore that you want to become a habit in your life? Is it cleaning the sink? Making your bed? Cleaning the bathroom?
Today, I encourage you to select a non-negotiable in your home or in your life. What is your motivation? Why is it important? Is it going to make your life easier? Will you be less embarrassed when people drop by? Will it improve your health? In other words, why is this going to be a non-negotiable for you?
Once you decide what it's going to be, decide how you're going to get there. What steps can you take to make this a reachable goal? What habits can you establish NOW to get there?
What ways can you motivate yourself to do it every day until you reach your goal or it becomes a daily habit? Can you make it fun? (i.e. race the timer, promise yourself a chapter of your favorite book after you do it, or maybe buy a new outfit if your goal is to lose weight, etc.)
What are the rules or habits that you need to establish to get there and, once you are there, to STAY there?
Then pick one or two of those habits that you need to establish in your life and begin to work on them, every day, until they become a non-negotiable habit. Then add a couple more habits.
What is YOUR non-negotiable in your house or your life?
Why do you want or need this to be a non-negotiable?
What are you going to do to GET there and.....
When you are there, what habits do you need to establish to STAY there?
Dream big and start small and you will reach your goal and make your home sing!
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