This is my plant. I think we can all agree that it has a problem. It needs water. Several times a day I have walked by it and said "I need to water that plant."
Even my hubby pointed it out today and asked if I was aware that the plant needed to be watered and he never notices the plants.
It's not that I refuse to water it or want it to die or something. It's just that I'm "busy" and I tell myself that I will get to it "later." But then later doesn't come.
I think that we do that as women and moms too. We let ourselves get tired, dry, and bone weary and promise ourselves that we will take care of things "later."
But then later doesn't come and we are running on our last nerve. No wonder we get snappy, and weepy and cranky. No wonder we sometimes say angry words we wish we could take back, or give glares we wish we hadn't given.
We are drooping, but we keep telling ourselves that we will "water" and recharge ourselves later. But we keep drooping and drooping, our leaves are wilting and our branches are bending under the weight of it all.
We don't have to be supermom or superwoman. Did you know that? It's o.k. to just be mom, it's o.k. to just be you.
We need to stop and take a break now and then. We need to stop and look out the window and enjoy that beautiful sunset and stop noticing the dirty window pane.
We need to stop and enjoy our baby's coos and smiles and stop worrying that Susie's baby is saying "mama" already and why isn't OUR baby doing that?
We need to enjoy our preschooler's sweet hugs and stop pulling away so quickly so that we can get back and finish the dishes.
We need to listen to our child eagerly (but slowly) read us a book that he's learning to read and stop trying to rush him through because we've got to go fold that laundry.
We need to listen to our teenager's conversation about her day and stop planning our grocery list in our head at the same time.
We need to take some quiet moments away when we can, even if it's "just" to take a bubble bath, and stop feeling guilty about it.
You might think that this will lead to more "work" on our part. But it's in those moments, when we're fully present, that we find moments of rest that recharge us.
We need to sit down and close our eyes and open our hearts to God and speak with Him, and let Him speak with us as we open His Word.
It's in all those moments where love and laughter fills our hearts and renews our energy, and hope lifts us up and carries us on its wings so that everyday burdens seem lighter, and God's promises are sweet comfort to our soul.
When you have given everything you feel you have to give, stop a moment. Look around you at what you have, look into the faces of those you love, and remember that they never asked you to give everything you had to give, did they? They never asked you to be perfect, did they?
Ask yourself if it's YOU that wants to give "everything" because you love them so much, and want to love with everything you've got. Because you're that kind of a mom. Because you're not trying to be supermom, you just want to be the best mom you can be, but you think you need to be supermom sometimes in order to make it all work.
Don't forget it's o.k. to just be mom.
Don't forget to go back to the Lord daily (and maybe even hourly sometimes) to refill before you get to empty, my friend.
Note: I had this blog post (and a few others) in my drafts folder. I may or may not post them in the next few days, depending on how things go. Please continue to pray for our friend's family if you would, this is very difficult for them. Thanks so much!
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