Sunday, March 31, 2013

When I Am Rude To My Family & MYHSM Linky Party

Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing? It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping and if you want, link up!

Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes....the opportunities are endless.

Happy Resurrection Sunday, everyone!!!  Ever caught yourself outside someone's house or outside the church, saying to your tired, fighting, grumpy children "Stop it, we're about to go inside.  Smile and act like we're a happy family and like we actually all LOVE each other!!!!!!"

Ever had a fight with your husband on the way to church?  Ever been annoyed by your children on the way to church?

Ever said some harsh last words in the parking lot with a huge frown on your face, slammed the car door and then walked into the church or into your friend's house with a big happy forced grin as if you hadn't just yelled at your husband or children?

Ever been angry or grumpy and then the minute the phone rings you answer with a sweet, syrupy voice?

Yeah, me neither.

Isn't it amazing how quickly and easily we can throw on a grin and muster up a patient attitude and a sweet voice when we have to?

Isn't it equally amazing how quickly and easily we can shed that sweet attitude and pleasant smile for a negative attitude and an unhappy frown?

Generally we might never be purposely rude to our friends.  But we might be rude to our family.

We would never hang up on someone if we were annoyed with them.  But we might hang up on our family.

We would never raise our voice and yell at someone.  But we might yell at our family.

We would never slam the door because we were mad at our friend.  But we might do that to our family.

We would never ignore our friend and refuse to talk to her.  But we might ignore our family.

If I am being nicer to you than I am to my own family, it's not because I love you so much.

It's because I love ME so much.

It's because I am being selfish and thinking about myself, not about you.  But you are benefiting from my selfishness.  It's because I don't want you to think negatively of me.  It's because I really care what you think and I don't want to lose your friendship.  It's because I love my family to pieces but figure they are stuck with me so unfortunately, I am not always as gracious with them as I'd like to be.

It's also because I know that my family really loves me.  And because of that, I don't pretend around them.  I don't do "fake" around them.  They see the real me whether that me is happy and thrilled and in a good mood, or angry and grumpy and in a bad mood.

But then it hits me.  Since when is showing love and kindness "fake?"  Since when is being patient and kind and loving to someone not real just because you're tired or grumpy or really not feeling it?

I am confusing an action with an emotionI am confusing showing the actions of kindness and  love with feeling the emotions of kindness and love.

We don't have to feel the emotion to commit to the action.  We are called to love one another, it is love in action.  Jesus never said "I want you to feel like you love each other."  No, we are just called to do it.

When you do the action, you will find that the emotions will come.You don't have to sit around and wait until you feel like being kind or loving or forgiving.  You don't have to wait until you feel like being patient to exercise your patience muscles.  You don't have to wait until you feel love for someone before you respond in love.

That is why I can have control over my emotions.  That is why I can choose to respond in a loving manner when all I really want to do is rip your head off.  This is why I can show grace.

Because none of it depends on my feelings.

You can act in love because we have a God who has unlimited love.   You can extend grace because we have a God who has unlimited grace.  You can forgive because we have a God who has unlimited forgiveness.

Show love in action today.  Don't wait around for your feelings to catch up.  Just show love in action whether you feel it or not and make your home sing!

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  1. How true that is. I tell my husband sometimes we are like a television, we can turn on and off a pleasant attitude just like that!

    1. Oh I love the television analogy! I'll have to remember that!

  2. "Since when is showing love and kindness "fake?"
    We don't have to feel the emotion to commit to the action."

    Nan, you've nailed it. Choosing to act in love is the precursor to feeling love. It's the most mature expression of love. And you're right, Christ is our model -- "While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." I KNOW he didn't FEEL like being spit upon, beaten, mocked, scourged, and then nailed to a cross. But he loved, so he demonstrated that love to the greatest extent anyone ever could -- by laying down his life for us. "Greater love has no man than this. . . " Thank you for a very very Eastery post this resurrection Sunday. He is risen indeed!

    1. Amen, Lori. It is His great love for us that led Him there and held Him there! And I am so thankful for it!

  3. A great blog to end this week and start a new one tomorrow morning. I choose to obey Him... and in so doing I want to honor Him with my behavior.

    1. I love that you brought up the fact about love and obedience and that when we do that we are honoring Him. We don't often think of it that way, do we? At least I don't think about it enough! ;)

  4. Wonderful! I am guilty too of those on the way to church cold shoulders and sitting angrily by a family member while listening to a sermon on love. Thanks for the reminder that letting our hair down doesn't mean we get to be disobedient!

    1. Once the kids are older everyone can drive in separate cars and it will solve that problem, lol!

  5. Amen, Nan! What a great post! "Show love in action today. Don't wait for your feelings to catch up." Well said! Thank you for sharing, dear friend!

    Love and hugs,

  6. thanks for the party and your post today!
    Bless you <3

  7. You are a wise, wise woman. Yep, we love ourselves so much the Lord had to tell us to love others as much as we love ourselves.

    1. And notice that we don't really have to be encouraged to love ourselves, lol! ;)

  8. I really think love is first and foremost a choice. I DECIDED to love my husband one day, back when we were dating. Now I just have to keep making the same decision every day.

    Also, looked around your site, and I'm not sure why we're not blog friends yet, because we have a stinkin' lot in common! (Is that too forward? Maybe it's too forward. But we do have a lot in I'll be hangin' around!)

    1. I love what you said, we just have to choose to make the same decision to love every day! Love it!

      Isn't that the fun part of blogging? Meaning someone that you have so much in common with, and maybe someone who "gets" your humor? Lol! We can be blogging buddies! ;)

  9. Thanks for coming to our Link Up Party at!!


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