Welcome to part one of Conquering The Messies!
“Alicia” left a comment asking me to do a post on, in her words, “how you conquered the messies.” If you saw my house today, you would say that I haven’t conquered anything completely. There are days where I get busy and I do not do my regular every day "maintenance cleaning," and things get, well….messy! However, my home is so much neater than it used to be. For the most part, I would not be embarrassed to have someone drop in today. Which is good, because it happens on a regular basis!
There will probably be a few posts on this subject, as I don’t think I can cover it all in one. Let me just start by saying that I was raised in a very large home. My mom loved to clean and she did it all herself. Can you believe it? I think I helped her dust once or twice, but we didn’t have any regular chores or anything, at least none that I recall. I was supposed to clean my room but it was never totally clean. Fortunately, I rarely kept anything so I wasn’t piling up the clutter.
When I moved out (with a roommate) I didn’t know how to clean a bathroom, cook or do my own laundry. You would think I’d learn fast. Instead I took my laundry home for my mom to do (hey, it was her idea, LOL!). Anyway, cleaning was not “my thing.” I had a roommate that was very neat and she insisted that I keep my stuff in my bedroom so our apartment stayed pretty neat. It wasn’t too hard to keep my room neat either as I just didn’t have that much stuff.
After my husband and I got married, I felt overwhelmed, at first, with all the things that I didn’t know how to do. We were merging his things and my things, and I didn’t know what to do with any of it. I really didn’t know how to cook, clean, or do any “homemaking" stuff. I was without a clue.
I didn’t have a cleaning routine, didn’t even know what one was, so I never did laundry until we were desperate. Unfortunately, that caused some discussions because, at the time, my husband had to wear clothes that I just couldn’t manage to keep cleaned and ready for him to wear.
My sweet hubby gently offered to take the pressure off me by taking care of his own laundry, but I said no because I felt that I should do it, only I rarely did. I yelled at him once for going to work with a wrinkled shirt, because I felt it reflected badly on me. It seems so silly now, but at the time I felt very guilty for letting him go out like that. I felt even more guilty because my house was always a mess and I just couldn’t seem to get a handle on it.
For years we lived in one big mess. Empty dishes in the living room, newspapers and clothes everywhere, sacks of groceries (with the canned goods still in them) on the kitchen counters waiting to be unpacked, grooming supplies all over the bathroom counters, more mess in the bedrooms. I was always embarrassed when people dropped in.
I wanted to have a clean home but I didn’t know how. My idea of cleaning was to "crisis" clean: throw everything into the bedroom and close all the other doors. I was embarrassed once when a friend went into the bedroom to change her baby and saw my mess. I felt discouraged and I felt like a failure.
When I had free time, the last thing I wanted to do was clean. The huge mess just looked so overwhelming and seemed so hopeless, and I didn't have a clue where to start...so I didn't.
Tomorrow I will share the first thing I did that made a huge difference in the appearance of my home.
So come back tomorrow for part two of Conquering The Messies (a four part series). (Update: Please go here for part two, here for part three and here for part four)
There will be no new Lazy Mom in the series this week until my back recovers a bit. Sorry!
(Edit: this post is taken from the archives as I am on bed rest due to my bad back flaring up again. I am in a lot of pain so am borrowing from my archives this week! I DO have pain pills and will also be going to PT for several weeks which I hope will help!)
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