Sunday, April 10, 2011

Making Your Home Sing: Where's The Delete Button?

Making your home sing Mondays

Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday meme! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). My point with each Monday post is, what are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing?

It can be an attitude or an action. Motivation, our attitude, baking, encouraging our husband or children (if we have either one), organization, cleaning, saving money....the opportunities are endless.

Don't you wish you could edit your speech as easily as you can edit your blog? Wouldn't it be nice to have a "delete" button?

In today's world, with email, facebook and texting at our fingertips, we now have the ability to say whatever we want as quickly as we want, and it arrives instantly.

We can get mad or annoyed with someone and our fingertips will fly and say whatever we're feeling, without giving our brains time to think and without giving our hearts time to give grace.

We can just give an immediate response. No cooling off period, no "Should I say this," no calming down and thinking it through.

Back in the day, if you were talking on the phone with someone and got upset, they might hang up on you. Then you had the option of calling right back, or stopping a minute and thinking (and hopefully praying) about the situation and giving yourself time to calm down, taking time to choose your words.

With texting and facebook so close to our fingertips, oftentimes there is no filter. You can just fire off a status or text if you're upset about something or with someone and let the whole world know.

Also, you can misunderstand the printed word. Without hearing someone's tone or seeing their face, it can be easy to misjudge their words and take it wrong.

Or, if you are upset with someone, it is so easy to read something they wrote and get upset and just fire a response back, without processing your feelings first. Without asking yourself, "Should I?" Sometimes it seems like if we have to ask ourselves "Should I," we shouldn't.

We can do that in the spoken language too. We can hear the stressed tone in someone's voice and snap right back at them. We can hear the whining tone in our children's voices and respond in anger. Where's the "delete" button?

We can respond with words that crush and a tone that is harsh, or we can stop a minute before we respond and think and pray, and choose our words (and tone of voice) carefully.

Which response do you think will make your home sing this week?

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! Please do not put your own "Making Your Home Sing Monday" Linky on your blog. As always, please don't forget to link to this post. Also, please don't forgot to leave me a comment!

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5 comments:

  1. I got in trouble for sending an email that someone misunderstood recently. What a horrible feeling!

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  2. For me misreading the tone is the biggest issue, especially since English is my second language. Sometimes it's hard to really understand what someone is saying in writing.

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  3. This is very true Nan! Sometimes it would be nice if we could just delete some of the things that we allow to come out of our mouths! But unfortunately we can't! We can, however, sincerely ask the offended person for their forgiveness. This is a lot easier said than done, and often we must really humble ourselves in order to do this. But since we are unable to "delete" the wrong words that we use, asking for forgiveness is the next best thing!

    Thanks for this great post...it was such a great reminder for me to think about what I say - whether it be spoken or written!

    Mindy @ The Purposed Heart
    www.thepurposedheart.com

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  4. Hello! I'm new to your blog and new to Making Your Home Sing. So happy to have found you! I'm linking up for the first time this week... I'm sure I'll be back as a regular!

    Blessings,

    Kristy @ Little Natural Cottage

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  5. Oh how I need a delete button! You have no idea! I am working on this area but it can be difficult sometimes. Great word pictures that spoke to my experience. Sometimes I run emails past my husband before I send them if I am feeling at all frustrated...so that I don't say something that will offend or hurt someone. He is a great filter for me. I do the same thing for him.

    Thanks for hosting, friend!

    Building Home with Him,

    Mary Joy

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