Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday meme! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). My point with each Monday post is, what are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing?
It can be an attitude or an action. Motivation, our attitude, baking, encouraging our husband or children (if we have either one), organization, cleaning, saving money....the opportunities are endless.
Do you remember what it was like to be single and childless? To have all that freedom? Yes, you were probably working fulltime, but after work your time was your own (well, unless you went to nightschool).
Ah, the night was young, and so were you! So much freedom! Noone to answer to. Nobody needing you. You could stay up till the wee hours of the morning and sleep in the next day (if you didn't have to get up). You could work for hours and hours on a project, and not have to stop to feed anyone, not even yourself! You could eat ice cream for dinner!
You could set something down and not worry about someone moving it. You could get away with doing alot less laundry. You could get in the bathroom when you wanted, and noone stood outside the door calling you.
You could leave the house at the drop of a hat, without needing to load 40 million things and several children into a car. You could run errands for hours, or shop for hours if you wanted, with nobody whining or complaining or fighting. You could even drive for hours without needing to stop for a potty break......well, unless you wanted to.
You didn't need to plan ahead to do or schedule anything. You could be spontaneous, a free spirit! If there wasn't any food in the fridge or any dinner plans, who cares? You didn't need to panic! You could eat cold cereal, run to the local fast food place, or run home to mom and dad's for dinner.
Money? Hey, after the bills it was yours to spend how you wanted. No need to check with someone else. No need to talk about whether or not this or that purchase was a good idea. Nobody to complain if you bought that blouse or ate out yet again.
"Me" time! Calgon take me away time! Time to read, watch t.v., listen to music, finish a sentence.....and no interruptions!
Fast forward to now........life is different, isn't it? Are you happy? Are you content? Are you still living with the same expectations that you had as a single/childless person? Has your mind made the necessary leap to your current lifestyle or are you mentally rebelling? Do you still, deep down, expect everything to be the same as before? Do you allow yourself to wish it was sometimes?
Your life changes when you join it with your spouse. Your life changes when you have children. I happen to believe, and hope most, if not all of you, would agree that it changes for the better!
But you have to change your expectations too. If you continue to have the same expectations you will be frustrated. If you continue to be frustrated, it can lead to unhappiness. If you continue to be unhappy, it can lead to discontent, being miserable, grumpy, resentful, and all sorts of other things.
What a wonderful opportunity to raise a child. What an incredible joy to have the opportunity to pour so much of yourself and your values into a little life like that. To see them learn to walk, talk, to see them grow! What an incredible, awesome, (somewhat terrifying, lol) responsibility to be a parent!
What a wonderful joy to join your life in marriage with the man you love. To share the highs and the lows. The sickness and the health. To share your tears and fears, your hopes and dreams, your loves and your not-so-loves! To have a partner through life!
Again, expectations, folks! You can no longer view yourself as someone who is living solely for themselves (which, as a Christian we aren't supposed to anyway, we are living for the Lord). But you know what I mean. It is no longer only about you! Suddenly there is someone else's opinion to consider. Suddenly there are several little someone's who need you....all day long....and sometimes even several times during the night.
When you're a mom, you are on call 24/7. It's a hard thing, sometimes, to set your own wants and desires aside and tend to a cranky toddler, a hungry teenager, a messy house.
Someday, there will be time for long, lingering books again. Someday, there will be time for hours of shopping. Someday, you will be able to leave the house without taking half your household with you.
But for now, just expect that there will be moments of frustration. There will be moments of exhaustion. There will be moments of "Calgon take me away" desperation. Expect that.
But also expect that there will be laughter, and "I love you mommy" or "I love you mom" along with the whining and the "What's for dinner?" Expect that there will be many more glorious moments of joy than of frustration. Expect that the unselfishness of being a mom is soooo worth it!
Accept that your life has changed. Accept that your priorities have changed. Accept that you will never be the same as you were before. Accept that there were some great things about the single life. And that there are some great things about married life. And some great things about being a parent. And be thankful!
One way to make your home sing this week is to be thankful, be content. Embrace the changes. For now you are a wife and/or mom and you will never be the same again! Your heart will forever go with them wherever they go. And your heart will forever be blessed by those precious ones who call you wife or mom!
What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! As always, please don't forget to link to this post. Also, please don't forgot to leave me a comment!