Wecome to the "Making Your Home Sing Monday" meme.
I imagine many of you have seen the video of Susan Boyle singing. If you haven't, feel free to follow the link but don't forget to come back! People had certain expectations when they saw her, but her singing just blew them away.
Sometimes we are so quick to label people. Sometimes, we are so quick to label our children, our husband, each other. We get something stuck in our head, we can get certain negative expectations of a person, and then we aren't willing to let people change for the better.
We are so quick to say "You always," or "You never," or "You keep saying that" or "You keep doing that." When people try and change, we may not let them. We may not believe them. We may not give them a chance.
What are your expectations of your children? Of your husband? Are they realistic? Are they fair? Do you expect more from them than they can give?
Sometimes we forget that children are children. They are learning. They are going to make mistakes. Yet, we forget to give them the grace to do that. We want them to learn it now. We can get impatient and annoyed when they forget to do what we just told them to do.
We really need to ask ourselves whether the issue is a heart issue, a training issue, or just a child issue. In other words, did they not do it because they just forgot, as children often do (a childhood issue)? Did they not do it because they really don't understand how to do the job (a training issue)? Or did they not do it because they are truly rebelling and being disobedient ( a heart issue).
I think sometimes we blame things on rebellion when really, it's just childhood forgetfulness and irresponsibility. True, we need to encourage them to remember what mom or dad said, but it doesn't mean that their heart is full of rebellion. Many times it's just sheer irresponsibility. They just forgot. Period.
Many is the time that I expected my husband to know what I wanted. After all, he loves me, right? So if he really loved me, he would know what I wanted without me even having to tell him, right????
I expected him to meet my needs, even if he didn't know what they were. Especially if he didn't know what they were. After all, he should just know, right? If he loved me, he would know. Yeah, how fair is that?
How many times do we get angry with someone because they failed to live up to our expectations? How many times do we get angry or disappointed with ourselves because we fail to meet our own expectations of what a woman or wife or mother should be like?
I am so glad that God loves me no matter what. Because I gotta tell you, I am so not perfect. But you know what, God loves me anyway!
What if we saw other people the way that God sees them? What if we saw the potential in them that God sees? What if we loved them the way God wants us to love them?
I can think of no better way to make my home sing, this week, than to ask God to help me see my family and others through His eyes. To love them the way that He wants me to love them. To love them more than I love myself. To not expect others to meet my needs, but to ask what I can do for them. Because I love them. Because He loves them.
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