Welcome to the "Making Your Home Sing Monday" meme!
I have blogged in the past about how I struggled with guilt when the kids were little. Guilt over not being the "picture perfect" mom that I so wanted to be. Guilt over losing my patience, getting annoyed, raising my voice, having the "mad mom" face, wanting some time away from my kids, wishing that they'd go to sleep without getting up four thousand times, and a ton of other things.
Another thing I struggled with was discouragement. Discouragement because I keep having to remind my kids about the same things over and over, discouragement because I kept having to clean the same things over and over, discouragement because I kept struggling and failing in the same areas over and over.
I think guilt and discouragement is something that we all face. We love our families so much, and we desire to make a home for them so much, and when we don't measure up to our own expectations, we get discouraged. We get frustated and then often we can feel like failures.
We also can get discouraged when it seems like the teachings and things we are trying to instill in our children are not being learned. Having to tell a child over and over again not to slam the door (or you fill in the blank _______) can get discouraging.
We just have to remember that parenting is a process. You don't just parent once and the child gets it. You parent over and over and over. Just like our parents did with us. Just like our Lord does with us. I would love to say that I have "arrived. " But I haven't. God is still working in me (Phil. 1:6) and He still has lots of work to do.
But when I get discouraged at my failings, I try to remember to take it to the Lord in prayer, just like the old song says. I try to remind myself that tomorrow is another day, that there is still time for me to grow in grace. That God is sufficient for me and I need to trust that He is working to make me more like Him.
I remind myself that I love my family, and my home, and that everything I do to that end is a blessing. Even if it's not perfect. Even if I'm not perfect. Although I still have weak areas in which I still struggle, I can also see God's faithfulness and many areas that He has strengthened me in.
When I lose my temper, my patience, or my face or tone of voice is less than pleasant, I ask for forgiveness (from God and my family) and then I have to forgive myself and move on. We don't ever want to give up. We don't ever want to live in our failings. We keep moving forward in the Lord's strength. We keep pressing on.
I desire to love and bless my family and be the best wife and mom that God has for me to be. I already know that I don't measure up. Fortunately, His measuring stick has more grace than mine does, and I know that He loves me, and continues to work in my life daily, smoothing out the rough spots.
We can't make our homes sing if we are holding on to past mistakes. We can't make our homes sing if we keep trying to be somebody else. This week I will remember God's faithfulness to me, and keep seeking to love and bless my family. Instead of trying to make a perfect home (and failing), I will seek to make it a home where love, not perfection, can be found.
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